Things I would tell myself at 20

At 23 (almost 24, excuse me while I vomit in my mouth a bit) it may seem kinda strange to write something like this. But that’s the whole point of Two Steps Ahead - to share information and ideas with those who are just behind you.

I feel like the last few years have seen the most growth and change in myself. So, I thought it would be interesting to reflect and see what advice I would have given myself a couple of years back.

Without further prolonging this introduction anymore, here they are: 

1. People are smarter than you and that’s ok - this one was a bit of a shocker to me when I was younger. I always thought I was a pretty smart guy, but I was quickly reminded to be humble. We are all smart in our own ways.

2. Take the time to hang out with people who inspire you, and don’t bother with people who don’t. In the past couple of months, I’ve really met a lot of great people who I could see as lifelong friends. I wish I had taken the time to invest in this a bit earlier, but better late than never. 

3. Give grace - this one is from Mom. Quite frankly, I don’t really ‘hate’ anyone I know personally. We all got our shit. Do I want to spend my energy with you? No. But also means I won’t spend energy thinking about how much I dislike you either. 

4. Take care of your body - i was pretty good at 20 honestly, but around 21/22 i slacked off. Find a way to make exercise enjoyable, and go from there. Stretch, do cardio and learn how to ride a bike properly (lol).
   

5. Work smart, play hard - this one is adapted from Dad. Do what you need to do efficiently so you can spend more time doing things that bring you joy. Note here that efficient is not equal to rushed.
   

6. Fun/boring is relative - just because ‘they’ say you are boring doesn’t mean you are. Find the things you think are fun and the people who think it’s fun to do them with you.
   

7. Don’t take yourself too seriously - life feels really intimidating, but honestly, there are people who are 20 years older than you with less figured out. It’s not that serious. 🤷
   

8. Learn to enjoy - Enjoy the moments, little and big. Enjoy learning new things, whatever you find interesting. Enjoy being with your family cause they only have one life too. Enjoy spending time with yourself, without distractions, to be content with your mind and your thoughts. Most of all, enjoy life. Appreciate your experience because only you will really get to live it.

What do you think? What kinds of things would you have told yourself at 20? Send me a reply and let me know :)

See you soon,
Max